Sunday, January 18, 2009

Can Reading Female Body Language help you Avoid Rejection?

By Chaszey Sandhriel

Here's a great reason to learn about female body language: avoiding rejection. Men complain about getting blown off and often blame themselves for not approaching a woman the right way, for acting too cocky and for not looking good enough. Some of these things may ring true but remember that approaching a lady at a gathering is only half the battle. What if you could know from the start whether she will reject you or not? Spare yourself the agony of guesswork and analyze her actions before approaching her. Is she ready to meet people or is she waiting for her boy friend to arrive? Did she attend the party alone or is she scanning the crowd for a guy she's attracted to?

1. Search the crowd for women who are preening - A woman who is looking to be approached will stand more erect. Her facial muscles will be relaxed and she will be sporting a half smile. She is probably trying to act nonchalant and idly scanning the crowd while holding a drink in one hand.

2. Is she fixing her hair? - Part of the preening process is making sure that she looks her best during the night. If it's not her hair, she may fiddle with her dress. She will also glance at a mirror from time to time. A guy can easily practice reading female body language a before he even approaches her, just to familiarize himself with the signs that a woman sends out to indicate that she is really available and even interested in him.

3. Watch her while she talks with people - Look for her slowly crossing and uncrossing her legs. A delicate balancing of a shoe on the toe of one foot means she's very comfortable talking to this guy. Some female body language signs that convey comfort include tucking the feet under the chair and caressing or fiddling with a part of her legs or her face.

4. Direct eye contact - You will often see a woman looking at you directly. Watch for signs when she looks away embarrassed as soon as you catch her. This is actually a good sign. A direct gaze is a sign that she wants attention. But don't approach her just yet. Send your own signals and let her continue giving you signs through female body language that shows she's eager to talk to you.

5. Look for shoulders and torsos that are pointing towards you. - You can test this female body language inside a grocery store. If you pass by aisle and a woman is right there reading some ingredients on a product, her body will follow you even when her eyes are looking down. This is one sign that a woman is noticing you without looking directly at you, and this could be used as a cue to identify those at a party who are already aware of your presence.

6. Demure gestures - Every woman can act demure when in the presence of an attractive guy. It doesn't matter how empowered the woman is, when she's in front of a guy she likes, she will most likely act coy and demure. Subtle tilting of her head and laughing in a flirtatious way are some of the demure gestures to look for.

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